Generate trust

People tends to trust me very easily. This always surprised me. This trust is a honor but also a big responsibility because on that level is where we talk about really important things, the things that define our lives and make us vulnerable.

I asked myself very often why me, why people tend to trust me in such an untrustful world. With the years, I reached the conclusion that generating trust can be easy if we are honest or at least try to be honest from our hearts. However, we need to work every day to keep this trust and for that there are a few rules we have to stick to as close as we can:

1) Compromise. Do everything you said you’d do. Whe you apply this rule then you suddenly might realize that (just like it happens to me all the time): you say you’ll do too many things, we give excuses, we get frustrated and some times even feel guilty, we distance ourselves from the people we acquire compromises with. Therefore, stop giving excuses as a way to start realizing which compromises are you acquiring.

2) Respect. This is essential. We all make mistakes. We all see very clearly the mistakes from others and have a lot of trouble realizing our own. To listen to someone without judging is the first true step to trust each other.

3) Be honest. We all have less trouble forgiving someone that makes a mistake, even if it hurts us, but who acted so because he/she felt “it was the right thing to do”, than someone who knowingly manipulates us. My experience says that, no matter what you did, if you say exactly what you feel without fearing the reaction from the person in front of you, that’s exactly where real communication starts.

There’s an additional point: patience. Patience with ourselves because we live in a world where we were told that everybody lies, that we have to be better than the rest, that the truth makes us weak. Without noticing, we might use excuses, judge or manipulate others. But we need to be calm and patient since every change has its process.

Photo “Don’t let me fall” de MalyBelen.

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